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Where are you, Christmas?

I don’t know about you but I am struggling a little with Christmas this year.

It is one of my favorite holidays because of all it represents…. but that is also what makes it is so hard.

A big part of Christmas that I look forward to is the music.

One of my favorite Christmas songs that I hear over and over on the radio during the Christmas season is from “The Grinch that Stole Christmas.”

No, it’s not the “You’re a mean one, Mr. Grinch” though sometimes I do feel like I can relate to that a little bit.

It’s the beautiful Faith Hill ballad asking where Christmas is.

The words say:

Where are you Christmas?

Why can't I find you?

Why have you gone away?

Where is the laughter you used to bring me?

Why can't I hear music play?

My world is changing

I'm rearranging

Does that mean Christmas changes, too?”

I think we have all felt this way a little bit after a loss especially those first holiday seasons without a loved one.

Our world is shaken and we have to figure out what Christmas means to us now.

Here are 5 ways to find the Christmas Spirit even when it seems to be missing.

Decking the Halls

Pull out your holiday decorations and set the mood.

If you put lights on your house, drag out the ladder and hang them.

If it is a simple wreath on your door, put it up.

Give yourself a chance to decide how you want to celebrate the holidays by at least welcoming them in properly.

Secret Santa

Find opportunities to give and serve those around you.

It is one of the best times of years to reach out to those who are suffering and to be able to help them.

It can be an anonymous gift or you can give your time reaching out in the community.

Serving others also helps us to find the joy and remember how to feel the Christmas spirit again.

Caroling, Caroling Through the Woods

Listen to or sing the Christmas carols and favorite Christmas songs.

If you are brave enough, organize a caroling experience to bring joy to your neighbors and friends.

For most, music is a form of therapy and can connect you to different stages in your life through a simple melody or lyric.

A song can bring up a memory that you may have forgotten which may be painful at first but I don’t know anyone that wouldn’t love to remember a lost moment with their loved one.

Also, the carols can bring a lot of joy this time of year and peace to your heart.

Oh, Christmas Tree

Having a Christmas tree brings a certain part of joy to the Christmas season.

Whether you have a real tree with the tantalizing scent filling up your house or an artificial tree with the beautiful lights reflecting on the branches, decorate a Christmas tree this season.

I find that there is no better place to reminisce about my loved ones than late at night, staring into the twinkling lights, snuggled in a blanket, and feeling them close to me.

Neighbor Gifts

Take the time to touch base with your neighbors.

Bake an extra batch of your famous chocolate chip cookies and bring them over to your neighbors to let them know that you care about them.

It doesn’t have to be a big occasion just a simple gesture to let them know that you were thinking of them this season.

So if you feel like the Grinch has got a hold of you this year just remember Christmas is still here.

We just need to find our own personal connection of welcoming it back into our life.

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